Since joining ITF on June 4th, I’ve been working on getting my first pullup. Those who are unable to do unassisted pullups have the luxury of using a plethora of bands available. And, while they come in a variety of pretty colors, I longed for the day that I would no longer need a band. Just one freaking pullup, that’s all I needed to feel like I had arrived.
I started with the 2nd largest rubberband available and slowly (and very painfully) worked my way to the lighter bands. It was starting to feel like I was never going to get it. The green band and I had become really good friends and I was thinking of writing my name on it with a Sharpie.
My coach suggested that I focus more on my “kip” than on the bar, itself. I was looking up at the bar, as I was trying to get over it, and it was completely throwing me off. He told me to forget the bar and focus on the movement required to get there. So, I started coming to class early to practice that movement. And, everytime, I was just shy of getting my chin above the bar.
This past week, I performed my first unassisted pullup, which resulted in a giant squeal and a victory lap around the gym.
Here’s where I’m going with this one:
December is always a great time to reflect upon your year. Think back to January, when you were gung ho about those goals/resolutions/what-have-you’s. WHere are those thoughts now?
Obviously, perfection isn’t possible, so go ahead and think about the hits AND misses. The phrase “What was I thinking?!” may come to mind. That’s cool. Go with it.
Let’s take it one step further, shall we? Let’s examine the year before and the one before that. Are we seeing a pattern yet? What’s that definition of insanity, again? Hmmm?
Enough of the bashing. You all rock and I’m sure there are legitimate reasons you did or didn’t hit some of your goals. After all, Denial isn’t just a river in Egypt.
My point is this: We make silly goals, the same goal, over and over and over again. We come back to it, promising to get it right this time. It’s like a freaking co-dependent relationship.
Stop. Just Stop.
Step away from the goal and let it go on it’s merry way, because, obviously something isn’t working.
Approaching the new year, I challenge you to do a little bit of homework before you run out and throw those same, tired resolutions onto a scrap of paper. What? You didn’t write them down? Oh God… that’s a whole ‘nother blog post!
1. Think about WHY you want to hit that goal. Why? What would it change about your life? Imagine sitting here, right this second, having achieved it. How does it feel? Good? Bad? Just “Meh”?
If it’s just “meh,” then you definitely need to drop that one like the bad habit that it is.
I still get giddy thinking about getting above that bar!
2. Secondly, stop just putting the end as your goal. Remember, “a goal without a plan is just a wish”. I have to remind clients (and myself) of this daily.
So, stop having the end as your goal and start making the process your goal.
My pullup story is a small one, but a great example of this point. The funniest part about that story is that I was so focused on the work required to get above the bar, that I didn’t even realize I had done it. My coach had to point it out when I hit the ground again – “That was it!”.
Let’s take the age-old resolution: Weight Loss. Eating and Exercise are the processes you should be focused on. My better half has been focused on eating a very Paleo diet and constantly varying his workouts via Crossfit since the beginning of June. He stopped weighing himself a month in. He wanted to focus more on the process. Yesterday, just for sh*ts and giggles, we decided to check his weight. He’s down 30 lbs. AND, he’s got no plans to stop the Paleo eating, because frankly, it’s easy and we aren’t deprived. The workouts will continue,because we’re loving getting stronger and enjoy the new family we have at our gym.
IT’S THE PROCESS.
So, I challenge all of you to spend this next month dissecting your goals and hammering out the path that will get you to them. THEN, make a resolution to stick to that PATH, not achieve that goal.
And, because we all have haters in our lives, I’m leaving you with this video: